It often starts with a request. Someone asks you to do them a favor or lend a hand. It’s a nice feeling to be needed, and being a helpful person is a good thing, isn’t it? Thus, you say yes. But secretly, you know that you will feel drained eventually because you already have so much on your plate. Or it may lead to unhappiness as you don’t enjoy doing this kind of task. Does this sound familiar?
You may also get into the situation that someone wants to touch you physically against your will or asks for personal information that you are unready to give. Since they are a person in authority or someone you don’t want to lose, you “pull yourself together” and stand the discomfort.
Many introverts, especially shy ones, are so-called “people pleasers” and accept a matter even though they want to decline. The fear of offending or hurting the counterpart by saying no makes them put their own needs aside. Bad mistake! It is crucial for our mental health that you set boundaries. And yes, that’s difficult, and you won’t learn it overnight. It takes both time and practice, but it’s worth the effort.
In this article, I’ll introduce to you my three steps for setting and preserving healthy boundaries.Read More »